It's up to the father to decide who his son will grow up to be: here's why

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"Father and son"

What does a father bring to his son's life?

For a boy, a father is the embodiment of masculinity. It is the way a father behaves in the family, the principles he follows, and the way he treats his mother that determine who his son will grow up to be.

What if the father is authoritarian?

Such a father is confident in his coolness and tries to convince his son that he will never reach his father's heights.

All of his attempts to do something are thwarted by his father's disdain - "who does that!", "you can't do anything anyway".

It is almost impossible to get support, let alone approval. He will constantly focus on his failures, instilling in his son a sense of worthlessness.

Such a boy, in most cases, carries this feeling into adulthood, and therefore, in his future family, he will be in an exclusively subordinate position. He will endure all his life because he is so used to it.

What if the father is infantilized and behaves like another child of the mother?

If he did not make any decisions and willingly obeyed his bossy mother, the son will most likely grow up to be a mama's boy and a toady. Or infantile.

If the father believes a boy should know what strength is from birth.

Such a father constantly raises his voice at his son and tries to punish him more often – "it's okay, let him grow up to be a man."

Such fathers believe that affectionate treatment of a boy is generally contraindicated, as it makes him a coward. But the physical impact is quite acceptable – "The boy should know what strength is. Let him learn to be patient and fight back!"

As a result, cold and aggressive men grow up. They often turn out to be domestic tyrants, trying to take out all the humiliation they suffered from their father in childhood on their family members.

In fact, to raise a real man, a father needs not so much to scold and "build up" his heir as to praise and encourage him, to celebrate and reward his successes. Spend time with him, take an interest in his life, chat, and show interest in his son. Show him by example how to behave and how not to behave!

And, of course, it is the father who should instill in his son a respectful attitude towards women and mothers.